Divorce Pt 2

Divorce is a difficult subject. However, it is something that we are seeing increasingly more of these days. In my previous post about divorce I wrote “Divorce is an unfortunate thing, and what I find even more unfortunate is when I hear couples say, well it’s ok if it doesn’t go well, we’ll just get divorced. I don’t think that marriage is something that should be taken lightly. Because of how people view marriage and divorce nowadays, I wouldn’t be surprised if in wedding ceremonies they changed the wording from “Until death do us part” to “Until death, or divorce, do us part.” I think that when people get married, divorce shouldn’t be an option from the start.” This is something that I still do believe. I would even add that we are seeing people avoiding marriage all together. They may never actually change the phrasing in ceremonies; however, it is sad that this is a common thing that we are seeing.  It is even more sad to see that this is happening in homes of couples who have children. Divorce is never easy for those involved but can be devastating to the children involved.

Children need good stable homes and relationships with parents. It can be hard for children to go from a home with both parents to just living with one of their parents, or shared custody. “Children in divorced families tend to have weaker emotional bonds with mothers and fathers than do their peers in two-parent families.” (The Impact of Family Formation Change on the Well-Being of the Next Generation, pg. 77). A child’s relationship with their parents is one of the most important relationships formed in this life, when that is damaged, it can affect the way that child forms different types of relationships. “Early studies generally supported the assumption that children who experience parental divorce are prone to a variety of academic, behavioral, and emotional problems.” (pg. 76). I think that it is important to take in consideration children, and how they will react to a divorce. I think that even though marriage is hard, it is better to work on the difficult things in your marriage and learn to grow together. I think that when you do this, it can save your marriage.

I think that divorce is something that has become more common, because kids see their parents getting divorced, and follow in their footsteps. This week in my Marriage class we studied transitional characters. A transitional character is a person who breaks the chain of a habit within a family. I think that it can be difficult to be a transitional character and break that chain of that habit. However, I think that it can be a great thing! I think it can be an important thing to be a transitional character and break the chain of that habit. When taking into consideration breaking the habit of divorce, I think that breaking that chain starts even before you start dating. Make and set goals to avoid a divorce. I think that when you are dating someone, it is important to get to know them, and talk about all possible scenarios and how you would work together and solve the problems. It is important to work together, that’s what a marriage is!