Divorce is a difficult subject. However,
it is something that we are seeing increasingly more of these days. In my
previous post about divorce I wrote “Divorce is an unfortunate thing, and what
I find even more unfortunate is when I hear couples say, well it’s ok if it
doesn’t go well, we’ll just get divorced. I don’t think that marriage is
something that should be taken lightly. Because of how people view marriage and
divorce nowadays, I wouldn’t be surprised if in wedding ceremonies they changed
the wording from “Until death do us part” to “Until death, or divorce, do us
part.” I think that when people get married, divorce shouldn’t be an option
from the start.” This is something that I still do believe. I would even add
that we are seeing people avoiding marriage all together. They may never
actually change the phrasing in ceremonies; however, it is sad that this is a
common thing that we are seeing. It is even more sad to see that this is
happening in homes of couples who have children. Divorce is never easy for
those involved but can be devastating to the children involved.
Children need good stable homes and relationships
with parents. It can be hard for children to go from a home with both parents
to just living with one of their parents, or shared custody. “Children in
divorced families tend to have weaker emotional bonds with mothers and fathers
than do their peers in two-parent families.” (The Impact of Family Formation
Change on the Well-Being of the Next Generation, pg. 77). A child’s
relationship with their parents is one of the most important relationships
formed in this life, when that is damaged, it can affect the way that child
forms different types of relationships. “Early studies generally supported the
assumption that children who experience parental divorce are prone to a variety
of academic, behavioral, and emotional problems.” (pg. 76). I think that it is
important to take in consideration children, and how they will react to a
divorce. I think that even though marriage is hard, it is better to work on the
difficult things in your marriage and learn to grow together. I think that when
you do this, it can save your marriage.
I think that divorce is
something that has become more common, because kids see their parents getting
divorced, and follow in their footsteps. This week in my Marriage class we studied
transitional characters. A transitional character is a person who breaks the chain
of a habit within a family. I think that it can be difficult to be a transitional
character and break that chain of that habit. However, I think that it can be a
great thing! I think it can be an important thing to be a transitional
character and break the chain of that habit. When taking into consideration
breaking the habit of divorce, I think that breaking that chain starts even
before you start dating. Make and set goals to avoid a divorce. I think that
when you are dating someone, it is important to get to know them, and talk
about all possible scenarios and how you would work together and solve the problems.
It is important to work together, that’s what a marriage is!
