Many of us have heard the statistic that 50% of marriages
end in divorce. However, only about 24% of first marriages actually end in
divorce. I think that it is great that it is not 50%, however, I do still think
that it is sad that there are still 24% of marriages that do end in divorce. Divorce
is an unfortunate thing, and what I find even more unfortunate is when I hear
couples say, well it’s ok if it doesn’t go well, we’ll just get divorced. I don’t
think that marriage is something that should be taken lightly. Because of how people
view marriage and divorce nowadays, I wouldn’t be surprised if in wedding ceremonies
they changed the wording from “Until death do us part” to “Until death, or divorce,
do us part”. I think that when people get married, divorce shouldn’t be an
option from the start.
There are many reasons that people get divorced, and the
reasoning for every couple is different. I believe that it is worth working on
your marriage rather than just giving up and getting a divorce. A study we
talked about in my class asked people who had been divorced for 2 years about
their divorce. 70% of people said that not only could they have saved their marriages,
but that they should have saved their marriages. I think that this is unfortunate.
I think that because of No Fault Divorce that when something difficult comes up
in a marriage that they don’t feel like putting the work towards fixing their
marriage. I think that putting some effort in our relationship will make our
marriage and lives better.
There are many things that can make divorce a tricky
situation. When you split up, you have to figure out how you are going to
divide your possessions, your friends, your life, and sometimes children. I
think that this can be difficult for all parties involved. It is difficult for
the people who are getting divorced, because it directly affects them. It can be
difficult for those couples to decide who gets what, and who gets to live where
they were living, and for them to feel that what they get is fair. It can be
difficult for their friends because they can be used to being friends with both
people, but after the divorce can feel like they have to pick on of the couple
to stay friends with or try to figure out how to separate their friendships between
the couple. It can affect your life because you now have the added stress of
the things stated earlier, as well as finding time to sit down and get the divorce
and set the terms. I also think that when people find out that someone is
having a divorce, they ask a lot of questions and try to get really involved.
This can be difficult when you just want to move on and not talk about it anymore.
The hardest thing about divorce is how it affects children,
if there are children. A common thing with divorces nowadays is shared custody.
This can be difficult for children because they now have two separate homes
where there can be different rules, and different expectations. These children also
will now have to have two sets of friends which can be difficult as well. I
think that when you make children have such separate lives in different homes
it can be a stress and a negative effect on their development. Children deserve
stability, this is what helps them grow to be the best that they can be. When a
child doesn’t know how to act because there are too many expectations on them,
it can be difficult for them to handle expectations as an adult.
I think that even though marriage is hard, it is better to work
on the difficult things and grow together. I believe that when you do this,
that everyone is affected for the best.
